Falling In Love With A Married Man Who Loves You Too

If you ever find yourself falling in love with a married man who loves you too, you must be aware of the possible consequences this situation will bring.

Sometimes things get more complicated when a married man and a woman are friends. Putting a friendship at risk because a new feeling is looming can be overwhelming.

Many women have been in that position, which draws different outcomes. It all depends on the sentimental status of the marital relationship that the married man has with his wife.

That’s the key part! Because it doesn’t matter if he loves you back too. He’s already married. His feelings can be deposited in you, but he’s still committed to his wife by law and by God.

So, what should you do?

I will detail what you can and can’t do. Also, I will discuss what to expect in the future.

This is a sensible topic. And a lot of women don’t know what to do when this happens to them. They feel confused and frustrated. And it is understandable. So, stay with me and I will show you how to properly proceed.

What to do If you’re falling in love with a married man who loves you too

As stated, there are things that you can and cannot do. But before detailing them, you have to face and internalize one important fact: He’s MARRIED! This reality must not be drifted away from your mind. Keep it at all times.

Never, ever, for any second think that you can forcibly bend this reality to match some dreams that come from your desire to be with this man.

And if you wonder why?

It’s for your own good. It will save you some pain!

What you can’t do

Here are 8 things that you should avoid at all cost:

1. Do not interfere in another person’s marriage

You love each other. That’s a fact. But it doesn’t give you the right to meddle with his marriage. And he has to respect the sanctity of the union.

It’s absolutely wrong to provoke discord. If you do it, you’re breaking a family apart. And it’s also a sin.

You also have to keep in mind that there might be other people that can get hurt besides the wife. Children are the ones who suffer the most. It can leave marks that will become traumas.

Seeing the father, the one who is the fundamental pillar of the family structure, leave something that significantly impacts the lives of children.

Children always need their fathers. They are the guide. The person who shows the way and gives examples. No family is complete without the presence of the father.

2. Do not date him

You should refrain from going on a date with him, even if he insists.

Dating him means that you’re taking the steps to start a relationship with him. And that possibly will be an extramarital one.

Do you want to be the lover? The other woman?

Ask yourself those questions and see if you feel comfortable with that role.

3. Do not have Intimacy

This is a must-do. Once you have sex with him, you become the lover and he becomes the cheater.

And if you both feel love, you’re going to ask for more. This can lead to a spiral of desire that can cause both of you to lose reason, judgment, and common sense.

So, don’t make such a step. It could be a point of no return.

Why so?

In the event, that you form a serious relationship with him in the future, and then everything turns bad at some point, he might do the same with another woman, and you will suffer the same fate as his first wife.

4. Do not call him at home

This has to do with interfering with his marriage. A married man’s house is sacred. It should be respected. When you call, you’re entering into this man’s family nucleus.

If you need to speak with him, do this:

• Call him when he’s at work or;
• Meet him outside in a reserved place.

Also, try not to send him text messages. He could answer at night, which might seem suspicious to his wife. Or worse, he could forget to delete them and the wife could find the messages.

If you’re both friends or coworkers, text him if it’s just necessary, on decent hours.

5. Do not let your friends see you hanging out with him

This is not about what they will say or think about you but rather how you see yourself.

Do you want to see yourself as a woman who is trying to steal a married man from his wife?

If you’re feelings towards this man are true and noble, you wouldn’t want to go around with him in public, acting like a romantic couple.

Even if you invite others to join in a friendly get-together day to mask date, it could be considered cheating. Just take a look at the survey below:

Given the fact that at the moment your relationship is forbidden, you are obliged to repress any desire to start a relationship with him.

6. Do not receive romantic gifts from him

When you accept love gifts, you’re telling him that he can go further. In other words, you’re opening the door for romance. And that’s something you should avoid.

It doesn’t mean that you have to reject him harshly. Tell him that now it’s the time for those details. Remind him that he’s married. And whatever happens, these gestures can wait.

That’s how you deal with escalation that could needlessly speed things up.

7. Do not visit him at his house

Remember about the interference?

This is a clear sign that you’re entering into his family. Even if it’s something related to work, it’s not good to go to his house.

The home of a married man is the temple where he is “king and his wife is his queen.” And you’re not in that position.

8. Do not let him visit you at your house

Just as bad that you visit him at his house is that he visits you at your house. It doesn’t matter if you live alone. There are some things that you can avoid.

When you let him visit you, you’re bringing your desire to your own house. This easily can lead to intimacy.

It’s somehow painless to fight urges when the object of desire is away.

What you can do

Now, let’s see the recommendations that help you deal with this situation:

Ask yourself what you really feel

You could like a man and think that he is your soulmate, but love him is more profound. Seek in yourself to find the true feelings. Sometimes you mistake desire for love.

Also, sometimes the reason behind that love you supposedly feel might be just the craving to be with somebody, to be in a relationship. So, get to know yourself better.

Analyze if he’s really in love with you

How do you really know he loves you? did he tell you that or it’s just a hunch?

A married man can lie and say that he loves or is falling in love with another woman because he wants to sleep with her. And if she is somehow innocent, her heart can easily fool her with his advances.

So, you have to be really sure if he loves you. Most of the time is not love. It’s lust! And you have to recognize it when you see it.

Act responsibly

Never forget he’s married. Control your emotions. Don’t let them drag you down.

When you’re with him, set limits both won’t cross. You’re adults, not kids.

Pray to God that he shows the right path

God is the only one that shows your path. It will be full of obstacles. But those challenges will build your character. And difficult as they appear, you must carry on.

If a relationship is not meant to be, it will be for your own good even if you don’t see it at the moment. New doors will open and each piece will fit.

What are the expectations of having a relationship with a married man

This is what you face when you start a relationship with a married man:

Cheating

Men can lie about their circumstances and tell you about how terrible are their lives with their spouses. They even talk about a real separation. Clearly, there is an off-base thing in that relationship, yet don’t be tricked into imagining that he will leave everything for you.

In big number of cases, married men don’t leave their wives. When they hit on other women, they’re just getting on the impulse of a pleasure train. Dr. Jordan Peterson masterfully explains the reason why men cheat in this video.

Falling in love

A few ladies engage in these connections because of reasons other than love. For instance, they are drawn to hazardous situations to accompany somebody without a wistful responsibility since he satisfies them with gifts, and they figure they will have financial stability.

The issue is that it is exceptionally simple that you turn out to be sincerely involved in a very romantic way, and without acknowledging it, the affair can turn into a genuine feeling.

Double life

When you are with a married man, you have to live a double life since you won’t want your family and close friends to know who you’re really dating.

You won’t hang out with him in public places because there’s the risk that somebody you know can recognize you or him and tell the wrong person.

Also, you can’t phone him whenever you like, and spend the weekends with him because he would be with his own wife and children.

Disappointment

In the initial months, you might have that sensation of stability, whether romantic or material, because the man you are with truly has feelings for you.

However, eventually, the relationship gets stuck because you start to see no future.

The other woman

At one point when you are with him, you will feel regretful for what you are doing in the open. You will be “the other woman” of the story since probably you think about the family or relationship that you are assisting to destroy.

Furthermore, if by chance somebody finds out, you will be the most heartless individual, having no morals and qualified as a destroyer of homes.

Jealousy

You will be condemned to feel jealous. And this is different from his perspective because he could tell you that he would also feel the same if you dated someone else.

But what he is really saying is that he is jealous of his mistress. That’s you!

What is clear is that with this type of relationship, questions will flood your head. You will start to wonder that if he’s dating you while being married, what could stop him from dating a third woman?

Given that this is a complicated issue for women, I assume you have other related questions.

Falling in love with a married man who loves you too quotes

Here are some quotes that perfectly mirror this type of situation.

I know many married men, I even know a few happily married men, but I don’t know one who wouldn’t fall down the first open coal hole running after the first pretty girl who gave him a wink.

George Jean Nathan

This quote just highlights the propensity of many married men to go after any girl who gestures at them.

God has not always answered my prayers. If he had, I would have married the wrong man — several times!

Ruth Graham

This is a very true quote. How many times have you asked God to help you get the man you’re interested in at the moment? And you find out later that he was not the one.

On the other hand, this graphic quote highlights the admission that loving a married person is painful, and hang on to the hope that one day the love you feel for each other can materialize.

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Conclusion

Throughout the whole article, I’ve made it pretty clear that you should not have a romantic relationship with a married man. All relationships that include spouses are sacred not only by law but also by God as stated before.

I understand how you feel. Your emotions are very difficult to control, but you have to do it. I have detailed several ways on how to handle this situation:

• Don’t meddle in a man’s marriage.
• Reframe yourself from dating him.
• Don’t sleep with him.
• Respect his house.
• Don’t go to public places with him.
• Make clear that you won’t accept love gifts.
• Stay away from his home.
• Tell him to not visit you at your house.

So, be strong and act responsibly. Even if your love is kind, it’s not worth it to have illusions that one day you will have a future with him.