Telling A Married Man You Love Him

“I am in love with a married man so what should I do,” This statement may sound familiar to you or probably have personally suffered it, and that’s why you’re here because you want to take that dreary step of telling a married man you love him.

I know that you may feel frightened, even more, if he and you are friends.

So, let’s first get some facts straight before helping you deal with this situation. Read on and learn what is the best way to proceed.

Should you tell a married man you love him?

That depends on different variables. If you both are close friends, there’s going to be a point where you would not resist anyone. So, for your own sake, you should tell him about your feelings.

And if you wonder why, just take a moment, think about him for a second, and tell me: are you going to be able to hide your feelings?

Probably the answer is no. And that’s because emotions run deep, and they normally sweep people away.

Love feeling

Love feeling is too powerful to repress. You have to get it out of your chest in one way or another. If he’s your friend, in some way you probably feel somehow comfortable to tell him though you may harbor the fear of ruining the friendship.

What if I just know him very well?

In that case, you must refrain from opening your heart not only because you don’t really know him, but also because what you could be feeling is just infatuation.

But if not admiration or sheer obsession, you’re falling in love with this man, you should wait until you get to know him well. Give it some time. That will also test the veracity of your feelings.

Usually, women meet married men, and by just a first impression they get so grasped that they start developing love feelings. But after a while, those feelings drift away when get to know the man better and other prospects come around.

How to tell a married man you love him

If you already made up your mind and have decided to confess your feelings, this is how you should proceed:

Meet him in a quiet place

Since you’re going to expose your inner feelings, a nice and silent place comes in handy. It will lower the common anxiety amassed in this type of situation.

Also, nobody will come to interrupt you which can contribute to exasperation and fear.

Start the conversation by highlighting the friendship

Tell him that you value his friendship and that you like spending time with him. Also, start talking about things you both enjoy doing together. That way will keep tension down by keeping always a friendly approach.

If there is any tension, break the ice with a joke. Remember that you both are friends and used to joke around.

Tell him what qualities you admire in him

There is no better way to confess your love without feeling so nervous than praising his qualities. He would get an idea of what you’re implying. So, that can put him in a relaxed mode to react, which is something good because you don’t want to make him feel uncomfortable.

When both are relaxed, words come out smoothly. And that’s important, that you can communicate your feelings in the best possible way and he can reply without feeling overwhelmed.

Let him know you will be there for him

Remind him that above all things if he needs someone to support him, you will be there. Tell him that you care for his well-being and just want the best for him.

Tell him you want him to be happy

This demonstrates that despite your love for him, you are a mature person. You don’t get carried by emotions and you accept how things have unfolded.

On the other hand, he would know that your feelings are not based on whims or obsession. And that you know that loving someone is also wishing another person to be happy.

Declare that your friendship is the most important

The sad part is that friendship can be compromised. No matter if you have to keep your distance to calm down your emotions, you have to make an effort that things between you and him always remain on good terms.

If this is an honorable man, he will perfectly understand your feelings. And he will respect them. He will act responsibly and trust you more. Your friendship could even fortify!

What to do if you are in love with a married man

So, what to do if the man you love is married? Whether you confess your feelings or not, there is still work to do. Pain is mostly present in this kind of entanglement. And you have to address it. Therefore, here are some tips to deal with the suffering associated with loving a married man.

• Take a big breath and carefully analyze how well you feel. Ask yourself where you are going and how you see yourself in a few years. Is this what you wanted for yourself? Is this suffering worth it?
• If the pain is too hard, start cutting communication with him – not abruptly but avoid frequent talks. Also, go to places where he usually is.
• You don’t have to go through this alone. If you have a confident, or someone who you really trust, talk to him or her. That person can be of great help and support.
• Focus on something else. Life has a lot to offer. You just have to be open to it.
• Expand your social circle. Go out and interact with other people. There are plenty more fish in the sea.

I want also to share with you the input of Alex Cormont who gives valuable insights about dealing with this tough situation:

Hard truths about loving a married man

It is also important to take into consideration the bad side of loving a married man. Here are some facts that you must not overlook:

• You will always be in the background. You may be a shadow in his social life and practically a ghost on special dates.
• Hardly a relative or close friend will support your decision. Consequently, you will bring tears to your pillows, anger with get stuck in your throat, and feel a lot of loneliness and deep isolation.
• You will lose precious time meeting him, falling in love with a married man, listening to his promises, and eventually trying to forget him.
• In the remote case that he stays with you, you’re relationship will not be blessed by God. And the reason is that you will always be the cause of the breakup of a home. Moreover, if he becomes unfaithful to you, you would understand his mistress, because once you were in her place.
• If the truth comes out, you may lose the trust of important family and friends. In addition, your reputation may be irreparably tarnished.

FAQs

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Conclusion

Telling a married you love him doesn’t mean that you will have plans in the future to be with him. If your love for this man is pure, you want him to be happy no matter who he is with.

So, declaring your true feelings doesn’t have to be so dramatic though it can hurt. But love is not relegated to just forming a romantic pact with someone. Love relationships are not strictly about romance since love is universal, and it manifests in people when they want the best for others.

Remember to follow our steps:

• Meet him in a quiet location.
• Focus the conversation on your friendship.
• Talk about his qualities.
• Tell him you will always be there when he needs you.
• Let him know that you want him to be happy.
• Never leave out the most important you both have is your friendship.

With these steps, you will be able to get it out of your chest. It’s going to be difficult, but eventually, you will feel good about declaring your feelings.