I Found My Soulmate But We Can’t Be Together

When you’re emotionally suffering, the pain makes you forget about your wellness. The pain becomes the focus. And you’re blind to see it.

To start overcoming your pain and move on, you should lead a productive life. Go to the gym or begin jogging in the mornings. If you’re a woman, get a new hairstyle or a massage in the spa.

As for men, get together with friends. Play some sports or go to the movies.

While in pain, your thoughts trick you. They can make you feel worse by picturing ideas where you are the cause of the suffering.

It justifies that you must suffer for something you have done. But know that you haven’t caused anything bad. Feeling hurt for a love that is not retributed, is entirely on your emotions.

Your end goal is to control them. Don’t let them dictate your life!

You have to be realistic about what has happened to you. When things are not meant to be is certainly for the better. It’s not a punishment. It’s part of the circle of life.

If this person you love is already taken, you know that it was impossible from the start. Or if the motive is something more related to distance, perhaps your paths should not cross.

Besides, how do you this person was your “soulmate”?

It is just sheer obsession or just desire.

Love is much more than a romantic relationship. You can still love this person and feel fine without being together.

Never embrace alcohol and drugs to wash off your pain. It won’t make you ease or forget the pain at all. It will only make you an addict. It’s a self-abuse.

People who let themselves consume alcohol and drugs just make things worse. Eventually, they will have abused their body and mind so much that later they will realize it has not worked out.

And sadly, they might figure that the only way to the misery is to continue the abuse until these substances take their lives.

If you have a confidant, make good use of him. He or she might have gone through the situation. That would come in handy to give good insights to overcome it.

Most importantly, this person will understand you and will not make fun of you or make you feel worse.

However, if this is a good person, he will point out some mistakes in case you made them. And he will do it just for the purpose of highlighting the truth.

Good confidants listen but also point out the truth no matter if it hurts. You don’t need someone who enables what’s wrong. You need someone that makes you see the reasons behind the suffering so that you can get through it, and come out as a better person.

The idea of meeting some people is not to start a relationship, but rather to clear your mind of hurting thoughts and bring you back to society.

Being depressed can easily isolate you, and make you a recluse of your own suffering. So, you need to breathe in fresh air, interact with people, and start feeling valuable again as a person.

If the pain is too much, there are support groups that could help in your community. You don’t have to tell all the details of your suffering in front of the group, just feel the support and warmth.

Another way is to talk to a psychologist or counselor. The main idea is to have somebody who listens and understands what you’re going through.